“The super woman role is an unsustainable model.” Janet Neal
Janet Neal is a strong woman, passionate about helping people—especially women—understand how powerful they are. She teaches from years of experience in corporate leadership training and from her own experience of pushing through life’s challenges and believing in herself even when it was the hardest thing to do, and even when those closest to her did not.
Janet had to push through barriers and the resistance of others to become more of who she knew she could be.
If you’ve ever been stifled or oppressed by the ‘shoulds’ in your life—Janet said, “I lived by my ‘shoulds'”—or maybe you felt held back from fear, then this is also for you.
In this conversation, Janet and I dive into delicate territory to discuss some of the shackles that can hold us back. You may discover some of the invisible barriers that could be keeping you from being all that you can be and from taking your life to its next level of possibilities.
Often, we—our lives—are filled with the ideas and ideologies of others. We are all products of the conditioning of our families and our cultures. Some of this provides a solid values-based foundation on which we can build the life we envision, but too often, it includes structure and decor added by others. Like the well-intended housewarming gift that doesn’t fit or belong in our dwelling, so too, with some of the conditioning we grew up with of what we were supposed to do to fit it with the expectations of society and others in our life.
When we do not fill ourselves with more of ourSELVES… our Soul… our essence, we have to fill that void with something else. Something less, and often it’s the ideas others have for us.
Don’t settle for less for yourself… for your life. Ask as Janet did, “Why are you doing some of these things?” And if it doesn’t ring true with you, it may be time for a change.
“Women have a hunger to connect with other women.”
I would add to this, that I think people have a hunger to connect with people. So reach out to someone you admire or would like to meet… someone who’s already doing something you’d like to do. See how you might be able to add value to them, even if it’s just a note of appreciation. The more we do this the more connected we will be and feel.
Speaking of that, we’d love to connect with you! Please let us know how you’re doing and what you’re working on or interested in. You can leave a comment below or visit our Facebook page.
A writer, a certified coach, a speaker and a woman living a “should-free” life, Janet Neal has worked in education, corporations, non-profits, and as an entrepreneur. Her company, The Superbwoman®, Inc., focuses on helping women move from being stressed out Superwomen to becoming peaceful, productive and powerful Superbwomen! The mother of three grown children, Janet lives happily in New Jersey (a place she said she’d never live) with her loyal dog, Lily.
What inspires and motivates someone in their late 50’s to contemplate writing a first novel, and to then spend the next three years writing it? This debut novel is 416 pages total, and has grown from what was intended to be one book, to what is becoming a trilogy or quadrilogy.
Think this couldn’t happen to you? Whether it’s writing a book or some other endeavor you may have fantasized about, realizing your dreams is one step away, one day at a time.
This is an interview of one such baby boomer, who is also my husband of 27 years, Coleman Alderson. Coleman was born in 1953 and has done many things in his entrepreneurial life thus far, but writing a novel is a brand new adventure.
Caution: This Could Be “Edgy”
Is this interview—or this book—political? We don’t think so, but Coleman says it could be “edgy”.
For certainly it is talking about sacred cows and belief systems that may or may not be rooted in truth, and which people may or may not be prepared to address with Spock-like objectivity. Most sacred cows are defended rather than examined. It’s just what people tend to do: we protect our own, which includes our ideals and ideologies.
Still, seeking truth is what Coleman—and Mountain Whispers—is about. This debut novel, cloaked in colorful characters from deep in the mountains and ways of Appalachian coal country, paints a mural of a fiercely independent people. We meet them and mesh in the emotions of an escalating clash between them and the utopic green cities of idealistic interdependence, each living according to the precepts of deeply rooted creeds and deeds.
Book One is Out and Book Two is Underway
A Dystopic Action Adventure Thriller Spanning Four Generations
Neither Boomers Reinvented, nor Coleman nor I, are proponents of any political party. Probably like you, we’ve lived long enough to see the pros and cons of all of them, and how politics is cyclical and in one cycle one party can look very much like the other in a previous or subsequent cycle.
Perhaps this interview and topic flirts with politics. Perhaps it is just commentary and ruminations on the ‘what ifs’ of these tumultuous, fascinatingly revolutionary times we’re living today. Certainly Coleman’s book, Mountain Whispers ~ Days Without Sun is one entertaining hypothesis on where things could go. You can decide what it is for you, and have fun letting us know. Meanwhile, if you like this kind of discussion and would like to engage in some conversations of this ilk, you can take that to Coleman’s blog, LittleRedPill.com. 😉, and visit the Mountain Whispers Facebook Page to comment and maybe get a conversation going.
If You Liked Atlas Shrugged…
If you enjoyed Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, you will enjoy the Mountain Whispers books series. If you haven’t yet read Atlas Shrugged, you might want to go ahead and read this classic. Since I don’t read fiction, I finally listened to the well-read audio version of Atlas Shrugged from iTunes about four years ago, at the behest of my daughter. She read it and loved it when she was 16, and was convinced I would as well, and she was right. I don’t do fiction because I prefer to immerse in truth and reality, however Atlas, is an eye-opening and cleverly revelatory rendering, that invites deeper contemplation of our assumptions. Mountain Whispers is a kindred spirit in that regard.
*Rule One is named and fashioned after Warren Buffet’s Rule #1 (and #2): “Never lose money.”
Don’t Think You’re Qualified? Think Again
Coleman graduated Penn State with a masters in park planning and management, and during the first half of his life has entrepreneured several businesses, including home construction as a general contractor, landscaping and closet organization company, real estate investing, domestic and international development, and is fourth generation land and mineral resources development.
None of Coleman’s former areas of endeavor, nor his formal training are related to anything he’s embarking on now. And yet he and his life have become more fully charged, vibrant and impassioned through his experience of learning, growing, and creating in these new areas of pursuit.
Refresh, Rekindle, Reignite!
So if you find yourself feeling stuck, stagnant, dull, bored or even depressed, chances are you just need an infusion of new. That’s how humans are wired according to 20th century Psychologist Abraham H. Maslow. We all experience six basic needs, (I say seven, but that’s another post): we each need the safety of certainty and the familiar. And, paradoxically, yet logically, we also all need the excitement of uncertainty and adventure.
If we are too comfortable, we get lulled into the rut of complacency, and that can happen to us individually as well as to a society as a whole, which is another angle of philosophical humanistic nuances explored in the story of Mountain Whispers.
What Motivates and Inspires You? Start There.
What motivated Coleman to decide one day to sit down and begin writing a novel comprised of a rich cast of characters from four generations of the Appalachian Mountains? Or, to craft a futuristic world in a dystopic, action-adventure-thriller novel, that begins in 2054, and travels to places in the past from the eyes of a distant present?
Debut novel aside, what’s he doing to earn double and triple digit returns on our private investment portfolio?
Tune in to learn more about my husband, Coleman Alderson, and his journey into authorship, speaker, blogger and savvy investor, in this conversation with him.
If you’re feeling stuck, chances are you just need an infusion of new. And new… is only a skill away.
Art can be expressed in so many ways, from how you arrange your home to how you arrange a meal, to appreciation of beauty, nature and art.
I think that even appreciation can be a form of art. I think of it as colors flowing from the heart. And certainly, art is appreciation. Perhaps we could say that gratitude is art from the heart.
The artist’s path is to reveal beauty from beauty… to illustrate and enhance the beauty seen and unseen and bring it to light.
An artist gazes upon their subject for hours, communing with it and coaxing from it secrets hidden to the casual eye. It takes a deep sense of appreciation, and a heart gladdened by beauty, to bring more life to art… and more art to life.
The Artist Who Healed Herself
Diane was uncertain at first of sharing her story… her painful and private journey publicly. But then she thought that if she could help someone else… if her story might help someone else, it would be worth it.
“I have a friend around my age who was really overweight and suffering and now she’s turned her life around completely.” Diane shared.
Indeed, her story has already helped others, so we’re sharing it here, in case it might also help you or someone you know, and for the inspiration in Diane’s sojourn.
If you’re an artist, your soul yearns to soak in the scenes of life and capture sun-washed strands in strokes of brush, write color into words on paper, mold clay into ever-refined shapes… from blobs to beauty.
If you’re a visual artist, you need your eyes.
So when Diane Cardaci’s eyesight became significantly impaired, it throttled her life and her plans. This interview is her story of triumph over tragedy and victory over the victim she refused to be.
Artist heal thyself. And so she did. Diane healed herself through meditation, prayer, invocation, and—in particular—through food. Rather than write too much here, please tune into the interview with Diane and let her share her journey with you.
Learn what happened to Diane and how she regained her vision through food… and… a little help from her friends!
We hope you enjoy this visit with Diane as much as we did. Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below, or over on our Facebook page. We’re building community here… and that includes you!
The bottom line: we are all far more capable of healing ourselves than we might imagine, and it often begins with the simplest of solutions.
After studying portraiture, commissioned portrait work soon became an important part of Diane’s art work. She is a Signature member of the American Society of Portrait Artists, and has been a contributing writer for the organization’s publications. Her work hangs in private, corporate and public collections, and she has exhibited both nationally and internationally.
Diane has devoted much of her time to art education. She directed her own art school, The Academy of Classical Art, for four years in West Palm Beach, Fl. She is also the author of numerous art instruction books published by Walter Foster.
We’re inspired by Diane’s story, and it reminded us that actually, you don’t have to see to be an artist! Here are a couple of artists who inspire with their art… created by a different kind of vision.
Jennifer Riga Manuel, an artist, avid life learner, and wonderful story teller shares how creativity, art and humor eventually helped her triumph over her “Dark Years” of depression. Jennifer is on a journey of constant reinvention and is an inspiration to anyone seeking to learn and open up their creative side!
Have you, or anyone you know, struggled with depression? It can be a very hard abyss to climb out of, yet many have found that some of the best coping methods are surprisingly simple. Jennifer discovered that through humor and creating an extroverted, funny character she was able to embody a lighter self, even when feeling down, shy, and depressed.
We’ve all heard the common “fake it till you make it” phrase, and while it might seem dishonest or inauthentic to pretend, focusing on how bad we feel rarely if ever makes anyone feel better. If it feels like you’re drowning in depression, or fuming in anger and agitation, and looking for a way out, you might really benefit from hearing what worked for Jennifer.
“Laughing, in our family, was one of the biggest coping skills there was.”
But this interview is about so much more than depression. It’s also about creating, creativity, following your heart, creating art and beauty, and finding someone in your life who believes in you and uplifts you, (and for whom you do the same).
It’s a lot about the journey of perpetual self-reinvention, and in fact perhaps that is really just the thing that saved Jennifer’s life, (besides her husband Van).
Out of the Dark Into Color and Light
We’ve all experienced hurt and pain to varying degrees in our lives. For some, pain can hit in a series of unfortunate events all in a short span of time. Others might experience a roller coaster ride of highs, lows, and everything in between.
Pain, like every emotion, is part of our human experience and not always something we can control. What we are responsible for is how to deal with the events, emotions, or cards we are dealt.
We can’t change what happens to us but we can change our response to what happens.
We meet each challenge and struggle head on, by considering that what’s happening to us is happening for us. When we’re focused on how we can grow through something, and on the solutions and on any positive we can find, we grow.
Learning and growth energizes, elevates and empowers.
This process actually creates better chances and opportunities for ourselves. It would seem the harder way, because it requires effort to shift our obsession with what’s happened over what CAN now happen. But just like how our body and muscles improve with exercise… by pushing through what’s hard, so to do our emotions grow in health and strength.
“We all have things to overcome.”
Jennifer’s way of getting out of her pain and depression was through being creative. She enjoys art of all kinds and she’s always creating something, but if she gets stuck, she gets to cleaning her studio, and that almost always unlocks her creative streak. Next thing you know she’s gone from cleaning to creating something new.
Jennifer’s husband, Van Manuel, who is co-owner of Manuel Sheet Metal Works, Inc. in Kernersville, North Carolina, along with his brother, David Manuel (in a business their father started over 60 years ago!), has been her rock and her anchor. Van encouraged her to follow her heart and pursue her creative inclinations, and that’s exactly what she’s been doing.
From pottery to knitting to painting and more, Jennifer has become a prolific artist, selling her creations around the world, through Southwinds Gallery in Kernersville, North Carolina.
“Artistically, I’ve let go of things, and it’s okay to do that.”
Adult Coloring Book: Stress Relieving Patterns, for if you want to get your creative juices flowing but don’t know where to start… or… just love the meditative, creative process of coloring, something that Jennifer said she’s always loved to do.
Meet edutainers, twin sisters, Kymberly Williams-Evans and Alexandra Williams of Fun and Fit… with “Active Aging Answers for Boom-Chicka-Boomers!”
Their story is quite interesting—involving revolutions, Europe, lost luggage in the Arctic Circle, and workout tops gone awry.
I caught up with Kymberly and Alexandra soon after they spoke at a recent Bloggers at Midlife conference in Nashville, put on by the cool folks at Midlife Boulevard. They were there to help energize, motivate and inspire the audience while mingling and exchanging experiences with fellow boomer bloggers.
Fitness has taken us around the world to meet some of the best people.
Kymberly and Alexandra are hilarious and they keep fitness fun, practical and effective.
They began teaching aerobics in the early 80’s even before it was a “thing”.
It seems they just happened to be in the right place at the right time. But they also seized the opportunities that came their way, walking through each open door of opportunity which led to globetrotting and living around the world during most of their 20’s.
It just seems that wherever we would travel there just happened to be a coup!
We will never know what roles they may or may not have played in catalyzing revolutions, but chances are good a few involved a few broken hearts when they finally returned home to settle down and raise kids.
The twins are sold on fitness for life and eager to help others keep healthy and fired up with healthy lifestyles. One of their mottos is so true and so important:
Small Steps lead to Big Changes
You can read more on that and other really helpful tips and articles on their blog.
In our conversation we also evaluated two angles to a similar quote:
Alexandra said, “Once you do a lot of movement it’s actually more uncomfortable to be still.”
But I thought she said, “Once you do a lot of movement it’s actually more comfortable to be still.”
Turns out both sides of this coin are true.
Tune in to this fun interview with delightful and fit boomer twin sisters, Kymberly Williams-Evans and Alexandra Williams, and please visit their site for some fun inspiration.
International fitness professionals, twins, and edu-tainers, Kymberly Williams-Evans, MA and Alexandra Williams, MA have been in the fitness industry since the first aerobics studios opened–with them–in Europe, before leg warmers and thong leotards were the rage.
They teach, write, and present their programs on land, sea and airwaves. Kymberly is former faculty for the Dept of Exercise and Sports Studies at University of California Santa Barbara: Alexandra edits and writes for IDEA: The Association for Health and Fitness Professionals. Catch them at events or hire them for yours, and on their website FunAndFit.org.
EDITORS NOTE: We had several technical systems challenges on this interview, between the translator and bandwidth issues, but overall, these are barely noticeable for the audience until the very end, so please tune to meet Karen and get inspired!
Life Ahead of Me is Wide Open
Living life wide open, Karen Putz is a woman on fire with passion and purpose. She turns 50 this year, in 2015, and she’s looking forward to it with pride, as well she should, because she looks younger today than she did five years ago!
Deaf at age 19, Karen is a mom, wife, champion barefoot skier, many-times author, speaker, advocate for the deaf and overall amazing and wise human being.
“All our life experiences are building blocks to the next opportunity, to the next path, to the next journey, and it’s up to us to take that and go in that direction.”
Karen sees her life as wide open, with loads of projects and possibilities… she has her list of top 100 things which she created during a life-transforming experience with Debra Poneman, in her Yes To Success program, and we’ve no doubt she’ll be checking on that list and creating a new one!
“When you surround yourself with people who are doing these things, you get the sense that you can do it too.”
“Everyone said, ‘You’re going to hurt yourself. You can’t do this. You’re too old to be thinking about this.'”
“I have role models in my life that I didn’t have before… that are living life, who are breaking the boundaries.”
“”I have learned that time is a really precious commodity to me now. I don’t spend time around toxic people.”
“I find I am much happier when I’m around people who are like-minded… who have dreams, who are deep in their own passions and don’t have time for the pettiness of life.”
For more of Karen’s story, be sure to visit the inspiring media site for boomers: Growing Bolder, that we mention several times in the interview. They have a great video of Karen’s story where you can get some more of the details beyond our video interview.
Karen Putz is passionate about helping others unwrap their passions at any age. And she’s a living example of someone who has overcome adversity and struggles. No longer flailing in the wake of the past, she is forging her future by living each day fully engaged… living life wide open.
Karen was born with normal hearing and became hard of hearing after a bout of illness in elementary school.
At the age of 19, she tripped over a wake while barefoot water skiing and cartwheeled into the water. She thought she merely had water in her ears, but being deaf was here to stay, thanks to a wacky gene in her family. Becoming deaf turned out to be a blessing; after she dried the tears, Karen decided to embrace life and a whole new world opened up.
Today, for starters, Karen is a speaker, writer, Passion Coach, and competitive barefoot water skier, and above all, a mom. Visit with us, and please connect with Karen, and check out her books.
[Pardon the occasional internet freeze in this video. It’s mostly brief and in the first half].
What’s your gift to the world?
Do you know?
Hint: it begins with “Y”.
So… who are YOU… really?
Do you sometimes feel like you’ve not yet even begun tapping into your amazing potential? Are you ready to get on with what it is you’re really here to do?
How and where do you begin?
Tune into this engaging interview with Jamie Greenberg “chief originologist” and branding wizard at A Brand YOU way to get a head start on discovering this for yourself.
Jamie gets it.
Jamie has an intuitive eye and a knack for cutting through to your essence, holding it up to the light to marvel at, then carefully constructing the best form or vehicle for presenting that to the world.
In my diligent auto-didactic pursuit with numerous coaches and programs, Jamie was able to accomplish in short order what most were not able to do at all: laser in on the soul of who I am and what gifts I can best bring into the world. Then he helped me hone in on creative ways to share that more fully with the world.
Jamie is like the stone cutter with an eye for cutting the diamond in a way that reveals its hidden beauty and authentic lines. He’s gifted at helping people discover and position their essence into their best brand through his company, A Brand You Way.
Jamie and I both coach people, and yet we’ve each benefit from coaching each other. The best coaches also continuously seek coaching. The diamond needs the jewelers help to shine. The jeweler needs the diamond to reveal his own brilliance and artistry.
Those who are determined to grow increasingly more conscious and self-aware, seek input regularly, from various sources, ever tweaking and adjusting toward better. That’s how all life on earth grows best: tap in, tune in, grow, adapt, refine, shine, repeat.
Many people today feel that something is missing in their lives… that they’re missing the mark but can’t quite put their finger on what that mark is.
Whenever we feel out of sorts, it’s usually an indication that we may be slightly off course.
Those emotional rough spots are like the bumpy shoulder of the highway that signals we’ve strayed off the main road. Inner agitation and depression is often a message from our soul. It may be the message that it’s time to get on with our real work. Jamie can help with that.
Most boomers have amassed a reservoir of experience, skills and wisdom to draw from and share, but may not be clear on some of the best ways to do that. Jamie talks about how his four phase process lasers in to help you identify your “why and then your “what”.
When you think about it, it makes so much more sense to get paid doing what you love, than to continue to work more years doing something you don’t.
When you’re doing work you love, it’s no longer work. It’s joy!
Tune into this video interview to hear Jamie’s story, and some valuable tips on his four key pillars of Vision, Purpose, Passion and Values. He can help you refine and craft yours into an authentic brand that’s your gift to the world.
NOW is the best time to start.
Get Jamie’s free toolkit to help you get started bringing your gift to the world.
Jamie Greenberg is father of two and long time spouse to the inspired word artist, author, writer, and extraordinarily creative Ali Skylar, whom we also interviewed on Boomers Reinvented. After years of running a successful entertainment agency and helping his family grow and sell a multi-million dollar toy company, Jamie’s passion is to inspire and mentor YOU on how to tap into the miraculous power of YOUR originality and “personal brand” so you can live the life you’re SUPPOSED to live!
Have you ever struggled with anxiety or depression?
After years of wrestling with this Ali Skylar found a way out. In fact she created it.
This interview is Ali’s story of how she had to find a way out of her own personal crisis and lifelong struggle with anxiety. The result is a funny and profound solution, that will help anyone shift to a better place. As Ali says:
Change the way you do be your day.
Sucky to Soulful: How to Shift from Anxiety and Depression
Ali Skylar is the incredibly gifted creator and queen wordsmith of “Shiftitudes.” These are powerful and punchy slogans to turn negative thoughts into positive reinforcements, or as Ali says: “Sucky to Soulful!”
You can get Ali’s Shiftitudes FREE on her website, where you will find other entertaining and eloquent content to brighten your day and send you on the way with a smile and a chuckle.
Shift happens when we turn struggles into chuckles.
Passionate about helping people easily turn any negative situation and mindset into something uplifting and positive, Ali talks about how she started writing as a way to help her reduce stress and get out of a deep anxiety and depression. This journey sparked the idea for her soul work. Ali’s is a beautiful story of how magic happens when we turn pain into creativity.
When you find something that works, you want to share it.
When you find a way out of pain in to joy, out of dark into light, out of limitations into infinite possibilities, it’s natural to want o share it, and that’s Ali Skylar.
When Ali heard about Best Boomers and Beyond she reached out to us, because of our shared positive approach to life, and because she’s a baby boomer. We soon found out she’d already met half of my family!
My husband Coleman, and son Nikolai, met Ali and her son Chaz, at an event called Board Meetings International (BMI) back in 2012. The two founders of BMI, Jim Sheils and Brian Scrone, are two lifelong best friends with a mission of helping families deepen their connectedness in an often disconnected world.
Ali is funny, witty, and engaging and you’re sure to enjoy this interview as much as we enjoyed learning more about her! You can also peruse her Best Boomers and Beyond article: “What You See is Not ME!, and visit her site for a smile and a chuckle, and be sure to say “hello”.
AND… to see some of the wonderful programs and books she’s created! I especially like the Artitudes!
Ali Skylar’s mission is to use inspirational words, positive affirmations, mindfulness exercises and positive songs to help you learn how to change your life and have a true spiritual awakening! Ali uses her Shiftitudes -uniquely crafted self-affirmation acronyms – blog, books and courses to help keep you committed to your spiritual journey! Also, her Quotitudes – inspirational sayings, encouraging words and inspirational quotes about life – gently aid in helping you to achieve a positive mental attitude essential for personal growth and presence of mind. Chat with Ali on Google+ | Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | YouTube.